Category Archives: Grief

Healing Depression with Meditation – Part 2



Most people get depressed at times, and many suffer greatly from bouts of major depression. At the heart of the suffering is the experience of severed belonging—of being imprisoned in the pain of separation, unworthiness, unlovability and hopelessness. These two talks explore several meditation practices that reconnect us with our natural aliveness, openheartedness and awareness. They empower us to develop our inner resources, energize us to awaken, free us from rumination and remind us that we are not our depressive thoughts and feelings. The growing realization of the loving awareness that is our home heals the very roots of depression.

THE WELL OF GRIEF

Those who will not slip beneath
the still surface on the well of grief,

turning down through its black water
to the place we cannot breathe,

will never know the source from which we drink,
the secret water, cold and clear,

nor find in the darkness glimmering,
the small round coins,
thrown by those who wished for something else.

The Well of Grief
River Flow
New & Selected Poems
Many Rivers Press © David Whyte

Listen to Part 1: Healing Depression with Meditation


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Healing Depression with Meditation – Part 1



Most people get depressed at times, and many suffer greatly from bouts of major depression. At the heart of the suffering is the experience of severed belonging—of being imprisoned in the pain of separation, unworthiness, unlovability and hopelessness. These two talks explore several meditation practices that reconnect us with our natural aliveness, openheartedness and awareness. They empower us to develop our inner resources, energize us to awaken, free us from rumination and remind us that we are not our depressive thoughts and feelings. The growing realization of the loving awareness that is our home heals the very roots of depression.

Listen to Part 2: Healing Depression with Meditation


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Skeleton Woman: Embracing This Living and Dying World



Based on a wonderful myth told by Clarissa Estes, this talk looks at the way we run from “lady death” and the blessings of opening our arms and heart. If we can embrace the whole of our nature with unconditional presence – including the inevitability of change and loss–we discover deep wisdom and enduring love. (a favorite from the archives)

May what I do flow from me like a river,
no forcing it and no holding back,
the way it is with children.

Then in these swelling and ebbing currents,
these deepening tides moving out, returning,
I will sing you as no one ever has,
streaming through widening channels
into the open sea.

— from Rilke’s Book of Hours: Love Poems to God, by Rainer Maria Rilke


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Responding to Change with a Wise Heart



An intrinsic part of spiritual life is facing the truth of impermanence. When we open to the changing flow without resistance, we naturally cherish this passing life, and realize the timeless, changeless awareness that is our true home. Yet we are conditioned to grasp on to the passing pleasures (and all that we love) and resist the inevitable arising of stress and unpleasant experience. This talk includes teachings and guided reflections that help us identify the ways we are reacting to major changes in our life. We explore how to shift from reacting to meeting impermanence with an allowing presence, and then responding to our circumstances with wisdom and compassion.

Find more resources on change, impermanence, grief and loss at: https://www.tarabrach.com/grief/

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Tara Talks: Impermanence of the Body (5:54 min. video)



Aging, sickness and dying are treated as something “bad” to be fought. Truly opening to the reality that every body in the universe continually changes can awaken us to the ‘who we are’ that’s larger than the changing flow.

Listen and watch the full talk here.

Enjoy more short videos from the “Tara Talks” series here.



Tara Talks – Opening to Reality Means Full Engagement (not Resignation)



Every time our heart gets really broken open by loss, there can be more attunement to what it means to be unconditionally loving. This frees us to act more fully, honestly, true to our hearts.

Listen to the full talk: River of Change – Part 1: Bringing a Wise Heart to this Impermanent Life



River of Change – Part 2 – Bringing a Wise Heart to this Impermanent Life



These two talks look at how we relate to change – especially the notable changes involving loss of relationships and our own body and mind. We examine our strategies for avoiding uncertainty and fear; the consequences of resisting reality; our refuges of presence and compassion in the face of grief; and the gifts of opening fully to the river of change.

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With gratitude and love, Tara

photo: Shell Fischer


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River of Change – Part 1: Bringing a Wise Heart to this Impermanent Life



These two talks look at how we relate to change – especially the notable changes involving loss of relationships and our own body and mind. We examine our strategies for avoiding uncertainty and fear; the consequences of resisting reality; our refuges of presence and compassion in the face of grief; and the gifts of opening fully to the river of change.

Enjoy some short Tara Talks clips from this talk here:
Tara Talks: Impermanence of the Body (5:54 min.)
Tara Talks: Reflection: Installing a Beneficial Mind-State (6:53 min.)
Tara Talks: Who We Are, Beyond the Changing Forms (6:02 min.)

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The Reality of Change: Embracing this Living Dying World



“What is it that allows us to open our hearts to every moment of our life? It’s the remembrance that it’s passing and it’s precious.”

Our true refuge is reality – only by opening to “things as they are” do we find true peace and freedom. This talk explores impermanence – a key feature of reality. We look at our habits of resisting change – including loss and death, the practices that awaken and open us, and the gifts of letting go into the ever-changing river of experience.

photo: Janet Merrick


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Love, and Death (Retreat Talk)



Love, and Death (Retreat Talk) –

To live our lives fully, we need to embrace the natural unfolding of birthing and dying. Yet we are deeply conditioned to resist loss, to pull away from fear and grief. Through a powerful Inuit story, Skeleton Woman, shared by Clarissa Estes, this talk explores how our practices of presence can open us to what we avoid, and free us to love without holding back.

– A talk given on 2016-12-29 at the IMCW New Year’s silent retreat in Reisterstown, MD.


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