Category Archives: Desire

Reflection: Bringing RAIN to the Wanting Mind (11:01 min.)



Most of us have spent a lifetime fixating our desires on external objects. But if we learn to really trace them back, we discover that they are the voice of loving awareness calling us home.

We begin the meditation by briefly scanning through the body and sensing awareness of being here. We scan our life and use the acronym RAIN to Recognize a feeling of wanting, Allow it to be there, and Investigate how we’re holding the experience in our body. Then as we trace back to our longing for belonging, we Nurture a feeling of belonging as warmth, openness and tenderness that’s already here.

This is the final meditation from the full talk given on March 3, 2020, Desire and Addiction (Part 1): Voices of Longing Calling You Home.


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Desire and Addiction (Part 2): Voices of Longing Calling You Home



Dear Friend – As part of the collective response to the CoronaVirus—taking care of each other—Tara has cancelled her live class and recorded this from her home.

Desire is intrinsic to all living forms – the urge to exist and flourish. It turns to suffering when, due to unmet needs, it contracts, intensifies and separates us from our full aliveness and awareness. These two talks guide us in awakening from this trance, and discovering how within desire is the longing that can carry us to true belonging.

All you need is already within you, only you must approach yourself with reverence and love. Self-condemnation and self-distrust are grievous errors. Your constant flight from pain and search for pleasure is a sign of the love you bear for yourself. All I plead with you is this – make love of yourself perfect. Deny yourself nothing. Give yourself infinity and eternity and discover you do not need them. You are beyond. ~ Sri Nisargadatta

Enjoy also – Desire and Addiction (Part 1): Voices of Longing Calling You Home


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Desire and Addiction (Part 1): Voices of Longing Calling You Home



Desire is intrinsic to all living forms – the urge to exist and flourish. It turns to suffering when, due to unmet needs, it contracts, intensifies and separates us from our full aliveness and awareness. These two talks guide us in awakening from this trance, and discovering how within desire is the longing that can carry us to true belonging.

Practice with the final meditation from Part 1: Meditation on Bringing RAIN to the Wanting Mind (11:01 min.)

I want a lot.
Perhaps I want everything
the darkness that comes with every infinite fall
and the shivering blaze of every step up.
…You have not grown old, and it is not too late
To dive into your increasing depths
where life calmly gives out its own secret.”

Rainer Maria Rilke, Rilke’s Book of Hours: Love Poems to God

Enjoy also: Desire and Addiction (Part 2): Voices of Longing Calling You Home


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Reflection: Pausing and Deepening Attention in the Face of Attachment (10:48 min.)



In this short reflection, we explore how we can bring mindfulness and self-compassion to the habits of obsessing, over-consuming and hurting ourselves and others that keep us from true happiness, connectedness and peace.

The happiness we seek is available in the moments when there is really no clinging, there is simply openness and presence and ease.

Listen to the full talk, “The Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Working with Attachments and Addictions.”

Without desire everything is sufficient.
With seeking myriad things are impoverished.
Plain vegetables can soothe hunger.
A patched robe is enough to cover this bent old body.
Alone I hike with the deer.
Cheerfully I sing with village children.
The stream under the cliff cleanses my ears.
The pine on the mountain top fits my heart

Zen Poet, Ryokan


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Desire: A Current of Homecoming



Desire is intrinsic to our aliveness, yet when we have unmet needs, it can possess us. This talk explores how to relax open the grip of wanting and heal the suffering of addiction. You will learn how to bring mindfulness and compassion to the roots of desire, and be carried home to open loving presence (a favorite from the archives).

For us addicts, recovery is more than just taking a pill or maybe getting a shot. Recovery is also about the spirit, about dealing with that hole in the soul.
~ William Moyers

You might also enjoy Tara’s online course, curated from this talk, plus several of her others: Freeing Ourselves with Mindfulness: Using mindfulness and meditation to heal harmful habits, attachments, and addictions. Register at any time. Link includes discounted price.


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Spiritual Reparenting



[CC] ~ When we are not sufficiently nurtured in childhood, we are inclined toward anxiety, depression, addiction and other forms of suffering. In a deep way, we do not feel at home with others. We are disconnected from our own body, heart and spirit.

This talk explores how meditation offers “spiritual reparenting” as we learn to bring interest, understanding and love to our own inner vulnerability. This process of healing extends to our relationships with others and our larger society – by reaching out to widening circles with interest and care, we bring increasing harmony and peace to our world (a favorite from the archives).

“That question: Where does it hurt? We need to address it to everyone, if we really want to understand each other.” Ruby Sales

Enjoy a blog edited from the talk: Where Does It Hurt? Healing the Wounds of Severed Belonging

Read the transcript: Spiritual Reparenting.


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Eating Addiction: How Meditation Helps Free Us



Buddhist psychology views clinging as the source of suffering, and one of the great domains of clinging is compulsive overeating. For most of us the causes and conditions for compulsive overeating existed before we were born, during our early childhood, and in our surrounding society. We begin to release shame and self-aversion by realizing we are not alone in this suffering; and eating addiction is not “our fault.” The talk includes an exploration of how, through RAIN, we can bring mindfulness and self-compassion to compulsive eating, giving us more choice in our behavior. Ultimately we discover that this deep prison of suffering can become a portal to realizing the freedom our true nature.


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Healing Addiction: De-conditioning the Hungry Ghosts



 CC ~ This talk examines the suffering that arises when due to unmet needs for love and safety, our desire becomes narrowed and fixated on substitute gratifications. We then explore how we can bring mindfulness and self-compassion to the habits of obsessing, over-consuming and hurting ourselves and others that keep us from true happiness, connectedness and peace.

photo: “The Scream” – Edvard Munch


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Realizing Your Deepest Desires



This talk differentiates between egoic intentions (driven by wants and fears), and our true aspiration (deepest desires) to manifest our full potential for awake awareness and love. We explore ways to realize and open to our deepest desires when we are stuck in self-promotion, grasping and conflict, so that our aspiration becomes a compass of the heart that can guide us in living with wisdom and compassion.

“What’s my deepest intention. What really matters?”

“Mary Oliver in one of her poems describes kneeling in prayer in a field contemplating with wonder a grasshopper who’s gazing around with enormous complicated eyes and she writes: Tell me what else should I have done. Doesn’t everything die at last and too soon. Tell me what is it that you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”

Enjoy the reflections at the end of the talk: Reflection: The Compass of the Heart

image: geralt/pixabay.com


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Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Working with Attachments and Addictions



In Buddhist cosmology the torment of intense desire that can never really be satisfied is depicted as the realm of Hungry Ghosts. This talk explores the attachments and addictions that so many of us struggle with, and the teachings and practices that can liberate us.

Listen to the final reflection: Reflection: Pausing and Deepening Attention in the Face of Attachment (10:48 min.)

Original talk on 2015-07-29

photo: Jon McRay


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