Category Archives: Videos

Healing Addiction: De-conditioning the Hungry Ghosts


This talk examines the suffering that arises when due to unmet needs for love and safety, our desire becomes narrowed and fixated on substitute gratifications. We then explore how we can bring mindfulness and self-compassion to the habits of obsessing, over-consuming and hurting ourselves and others that keep us from true happiness, connectedness and peace.

photo: “The Scream” – Edvard Munch


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Taking ‘The Exquisite Risk:’ An Undefended Heart


Taking ‘The Exquisite Risk:’ An Undefended Heart –

Poet Mark Nepo uses the phrase “exquisite risk” to describe our willingness to be fully alive, open, available,  living true to our heart. This talk explores the challenges and blessings of taking the exquisite risk, both in becoming more intimate with our inner life, and in engaging with others from full authenticity.

Link to transcript on website and downloadable PDF.

 


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Realizing Your Deepest Desires


Realizing Your Deepest Desires –

This talk differentiates between egoic intentions (driven by wants and fears), and our true aspiration (deepest desires) to manifest our full potential for awake awareness and love. We explore ways to realize and open to our deepest desires when we are stuck in self-promotion, grasping and conflict, so that our aspiration becomes a compass of the heart that can guide us in living with wisdom and compassion.

“What’s my deepest intention. What really matters?”

“Mary Oliver in one of her poems describes kneeling in prayer in a field contemplating with wonder a grasshopper who’s gazing around with enormous complicated eyes and she writes: Tell me what else should I have done. Doesn’t everything die at last and too soon. Tell me what is it that you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”

Enjoy the reflections at the end of the talk: Reflection: The Compass of the Heart

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Healing Trauma: The Light Shines Through the Broken Places


Most of us have encountered trauma either in our own direct experience or with someone in our immediate circle. This talk examines the shame and suffering that arise from trauma and how meditation practices can support a path to full spiritual healing. We focus on practices that help us access a sense of love and safety, and then increase our capacity to bring presence to the unprocessed, unlived life in the body. (Note: For many who suffer from PTSD, therapy is invaluable and these practices are not considered as a substitute.)

See also: Mindfulness Strategies for Working with Trauma and Strong Fear


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Listening to the Song – Part 2


Listening is more than a communications skill, it is a capacity that awakens our awareness. As we learn to listen inwardly, we begin to understand and care for the life that is here. And as we listen to others, that same intimacy emerges. In this two-part series we examine the blocks to listening and the practices that cultivate this essential domain of human potential. Our focus is both on the transformational power of listening in our personal lives, and also the necessity for deep listening if we are to bring healing to our wider society.

photo: skeeze/Pixabay.com

 


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Listening to the Song – Part 1


Listening is more than a communications skill, it is a capacity that awakens our awareness. As we learn to listen inwardly, we begin to understand and care for the life that is here. And as we listen to others, that same intimacy emerges. In this two-part series we examine the blocks to listening and the practices that cultivate this essential domain of human potential. Our focus is both on the transformational power of listening in our personal lives, and also the necessity for deep listening if we are to bring healing to our wider society.

From the talk…

What are the qualities of heart and mind that are there when someone is really listening well?

Listening is the forerunner. If we don’t listen to the pain within and around us, we can’t respond.

We’ve got a really noisy society, and our minds get really noisy.

Listening is actually an evolutionary capacity. It’s a capacity that happens as we evolve our consciousness. And it involves a kind of inner quietness – a silence inside – letting go of that selfing where the thoughts keep circling. Respect that this is a process that requires training. It takes a lot of self-compassion, but intention is the beginning. Intention is what opens the door.

The beginning of listening to someone who is difficult is to listen inside to your reaction.

NOTE: In this talk, Tara asked listeners to submit questions for her to address during the next week’s talk. They did – and Tara incorporated her responses in Listening to the Song – Part 2. Thanks to everyone for the input.

photo: shamosan – Pixabay.com


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Being Truthful


Being Truthful –

The grounds of happiness, loving relationships and a just and flourishing society is honesty. And yet our current times are characterized by a plethora of deception – both societally, and often in more subtle ways, in our personal lives. This talk examines the deep conditioning we have to deceive others, and to avoid facing and acknowledging our own vulnerability. We then explore how we can commit ourselves to deepening our truth telling, and in so doing, creating a climate of integrity and trust that can lead to a more compassionate world.

photo: geralt – Pixabay.com


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Trusting Our Awakening Heart


Trusting Our Awakening Heart –

The more we trust that our awareness and heart are awakening, the more we find ease, grace and true empowerment in our lives. This talk explores two pathways of deepening our sense of belonging and trust: direct presence with the pain of separation, and turning toward the loving presence that is increasingly manifesting through these human forms.

” … we need people who are able to respond from the heart – not from an angry or egoic reactivity, but from real wisdom.”

photo: Ben Kerckx – Pixabay.com


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Darkness of the Womb – Four Key Steps in Transforming Suffering


Darkness of the Womb – Four Key Steps in Transforming Suffering –

We can either repeat old fear based patterns, or our suffering can awaken us to a deeper wisdom and greater love.  This talk explores four principles in relating to difficulty that move us towards healing and freedom—both personally and as a society.

photo: Shell Fischer – mindfulvalley.com


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Your Awake Heart Is Calling You


Your Awake Heart Is Calling You ~

As individuals and societies, we are pulled by both the insecurity of our evolutionary past, and by our awake heart, our capacity for mindfulness and compassion. This talk explores the ways we can listen to and respond to the call of our awake heart, by training ourselves to open to vulnerability (our own and others) and widen the circles of compassion.


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