Category Archives: Forgiveness

Forgiveness: Releasing Ourselves and Others from Aversive Blame – Part 1

Rumi invites us to find the barriers we’ve erected against love, and a universal one is blame. These three talks are an invitation to relax those barriers, and to open our hearts to our inner life and to all beings. Part I focuses on chronic self-judgment; Part II on the places of deep self-condemnation, and Part III on where we have locked into anger, blame or hatred of others. Each includes guided reflections that can support us in directly awakening beyond the confining thoughts and feelings of blame.

“Your task is not to seek for love,
but merely to seek and find
all the barriers within yourself
that you have built against it.”
~ Rumi


Short Talk & Meditation: Forgiving and Freeing Our Hearts (36:53 min)

Forgiveness for others becomes possible when we’ve held our own being with great compassion. This short talk and guided meditation brings forth our most awake and tender presence as we ask for forgiveness, offer care to the woundedness within us, and then extend forgiveness to another who has hurt us. (from the Spring 2018 IMCW 7-day Silent Retreat)

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Disarming Our Hearts: Letting Go of Blame (retreat talk)

Anger, judgment and blame create separation—from our inner life and our world. Only by releasing chronic blame can we free our hearts to truly give and receive love. This talk looks at the difference between healthy anger and the trance of blame, and through a set of reflections, teachings and stories, guides us in healing and freeing our hearts.

(from the Spring 2018 IMCW 7-Day Silent Retreat – previously unpublished)


Three Blessings in Spiritual Life – Part 1: Forgiveness

This 3- part series explores three capacities we all have, that when cultivated, bring spiritual awakening and serve the healing of our world. Drawing on an ancient teaching story from India, we explore together the power of a forgiving heart, the inner fire that expresses as courage and dedication, and the inquiry of “who am I” that reveals our deepest nature.


Instruction & Meditation: A Forgiving Heart (36:04 min) (retreat)

A forgiving heart clears the way for giving and receiving love freely.  This talk and meditation explores where we have become habituated in blame towards ourselves and others, and a classic three part reflection that can loosen and release the armoring around our hearts. (a guided heart meditation from the 2017 IMCW Spring Retreat)

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Instruction and Question-Response during Retreat (9:44 min)

Topics include individualizing your meditation practice, working with the “tangles,” forgiveness practice, and using the “N-Nurturing” of RAIN. Given during the 2017 IMCW Spring Retreat.

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Meditation: Guided Heart Forgiveness (28:50 min)

Tara gives brief instructions on the forgiveness practice, then guides us through a process of forgiveness of ourselves and others.

“Forgiving is a movement of your heart not to carry aversive hatred or blame. That you can care about someone and still create boundaries… Each of you has this wisdom, heart, being place that intuits that there really isn’t freedom in the moments that you’re carrying blame and judgment.”

(from the Spring 2016 IMCW 7-day retreat)

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The RAIN of Forgiveness

The capacity to release the armoring of hatred and blame is intrinsic to our evolving consciousness.  This talk explores the process of authentic forgiveness, and how we can use the mindfulness-based tool of RAIN to heal and free our hearts.

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Releasing Self-Blame – Pathways to a Forgiving Heart

When we are stuck in blaming, disliking or hating ourselves, we are unable to love our world. This talk explores what underlies our addiction to self-blame and the teachings and practices that loosen aversive self-judgment and help us cultivate a forgiving heart.


Tara Talks: A Forgiving Heart (2:42 min. video)

What is the real process of forgiving when we’ve been hurt? This short talk focuses on the key element that allows us to let go of blame and free our hearts.