…presence. Consider yourself an interested and caring witness. If some judgment or other strong reactivity arises as your partner is sharing, regard that with mindfulness and self-compassion. Offer feedback or…
…happens suddenly or irreversibly. If we’re resentful and at odds with someone, it can take many rounds of intentional presence with our own hurt or fear until our self-compassion opens…
…empty (self-less) nature of sights, sounds, thoughts, emotions and feelings. Self– inquiry extends this process by turning awareness back on itself. Classical questions include: “Who am I?” “What am I?”…
…I’m trying.” This was what I consider an ouch-moment, the moment when he really got his own suffering and could actually feel some tenderness towards himself. The second wing, self-compassion,…
…RAIN are: Recognize what is happening; Allow the experience to be there, just as it is; Investigate with interest and care; Nurture with self-compassion. In the moments “After the RAIN,”…
…focus was on my own spiritual progress. Once again I found myself facing what I most disliked about myself: insecurity and self-centeredness. I felt disconnected from everyone around me, stuck…
…helpless and alone. No uplifting thoughts came to rescue him, and he was unable to regard what was happening with mindfulness or self-compassion. In that crucial moment, as he put…
…Nourish with self-compassion NOTE: for in-depth explanation and guided meditation, see The RAIN of Self-Compassion Informal practices: Pausing, noting through day, embodied presence, using anchor when distracted, heart practices whenever…
…God-centered religions. Beseeching someone or something greater than our small and frightened self seems to reinforce the notion of a separate and wanting self. Yet while prayer does suggest a…
…self-compassion, and reconnect with our natural aliveness and that lost, sacred sense of spirit. Cultivating Love and Safety When teaching meditation, we talk a lot about directly contacting the reality…
We can only find love and peace in this life if we are able to hold our inner life with compassion. This talk explores the subtle and therefore often unseen…
…Resources for Caregivers and Those Aging in Place Additional Topics for Your Exploration: Working with Difficult Emotions/RAIN – (RAIN is an easy-to-remember tool for practicing mindfulness and compassion.) Self-Compassion and…
…Compassion for more information on Tara’s new book, including links to order. …the alchemy of compassion is unless we’re willing to feel… unless we’re willing to be touched by suffering,…
…all healing and spiritual awakening. This talk explores the trance of separation that blocks our natural compassion, and includes guided practices that enable us to directly cultivate a compassionate heart….
…we think we are the space suit! It appears to us that we actually are the self who possesses the anxiety and anger; we arethe self who judges; we are…
…impatient and distant from those I love. I get disconnected from my body as I relentlessly urge myself onward to get yet another thing done. Feeling self-centered and bad about…
At the center of the Buddhist teachings is the understanding that the passing phenomena of this world–sounds, sensations, thoughts, bodies and minds–have no self at the center, no self as…
Freedom Beyond Selfing We spend many moments in a trance of selfing – preoccupied with the stories, wants and fears of what feels to be a separate self. The suffering…
…unfriendly toward myself. For years my habit had been to be harsh and judgmental toward what I perceived as a clearly flawed self. I judged myself for falling short as…
…your forehead is—that is the site of mindfulness. It is the site of compassion and the whole compassion network. It is the site of morality and perspective. When the brain…
